Bullying is linked to long term emotional problems and parents should fulfill their role to recognize and support kids encountering bullying.

Parents ought to help children to develop the right skills in how to rebound from these experiences. However, some children mistake negative encounters with friends as bullying but this is not necessarily the case.

Teasing should not be confused with bullying. Bullying is where there is a persistent and repeating target on a child by a person in power through spreading rumours, excluding the child from a group to a point where it .

A child will not always confide to a parent about bullying and any unusual different behavior should be monitored and addressed.

If your child is bullied, be sensitive to their feelings, using empathy and show lead in solving the problem – together.

What you don’t want to do is express shock and anger and vow immediately to go to the school, or talk to the child’s parents. Tempering your response encourages your child to open up to you.

Collate the facts

Firstly, collate all the facts by developing a picture. Act like a detective or reporter: “What had happened? When it happened? Where it happened?  Who were involved? Control your anger and impulsiveness – remain rational.

By collating all the data, you are honing your thoughts so you can better set your  strategies when dealing with your child’s school.

Try and understand who are the main and minor bullies and their hierarchy socially.

Ask questions about the child’s social status, whether the bullying occurred in the presence of other children, what the reaction of other children were so the level of embarrassment can be understood.

Plan your approach and complain to the school. Deal with the problem rationally and monitor the future situation.

Louisa White is an online tutoring specialist, offering maths, English and science tuition in India.

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